Who Wants to Learn How To Be A Good Domme?

Becoming a Domme is a journey. Not only do you need to decide what sort of Domme you want to be, but you also need to learn how to be a good Domme. This process may take months or years and it can be likened to any journey of self-discovery. When you realize you want to step into the role of a Domme, you should be careful in the way you change your behaviors and your mindset.

• Think about what becoming a Domme means to you – Though this might sound a little strange, it’s a good idea to think about why you want to learn how to be a good Domme first. This will help you begin to see what sort of Domme you may want to become in the process.
• Make a list of goals for training – Since becoming a Domme is a process, you will want to make a list of all of your goals, even the small ones. You might end up changing this list as you learn more, but starting off with some sort of map of your journey can help you stay on track.
• Work with other Dommes – Whenever possible try to learn how to be a good Domme from someone who already is. Even if you just talk to other Dommes online about things you can do, this will help you get a broader perspective than books and websites can teach.

When you’re ready to learn how to be a good Domme, then it’s time to get serious about the process. Becoming a Domme is more than just deciding to boss others around. This is a journey of becoming more powerful and showing others that you can control them.

You also learn to control yourself and to create powerful experiences for others.

As a Dominant you are meant to protect and care for your submissive.  Therefore, it is crucial that your slave gets the exercise they need to stay healthy.  Even if this means that you must put a collar and leash on them and have them follow behind while you exercise. 

Of course, I don't think taking your submissive for a walk on their leash is the worst thing they could experience.  So they should be more then happy to follow their Dominant's lead and the best part is they won't even realize they are exercising. 

Showing Respect In Submissive/Slave Training

There is nothing as beautiful as seeing a good submissive showing respect to their Dominant and the tools used to in their submissive training.  It both reflects well upon the Dominant and the training they have provided for their submissive.  It also shows a desire that a submissive has to obey and serve their Dominant.

The question you need to ask yourself is; Do you want to obey and serve?

If so will you show your Dominant the respect if they have proven themselves worthy?

Show Me You Want To Be Flogged

Many submissives will ask to be spanked, flogged or caned. They think just because they have asked for it that they should receive it. Well I believe that if a submissive wants something that they need to prove that not only do they truly want it, but that deserve to receive it. So if you want to receiving a flogging from Me you have to show Me that you truly want it. How are you going to do that? Master Bishop

Learn How To Be Submissive through Slave Training Protocols

While every slave experience is different, one thing remains the same – you need to discover how to be submissive. You need to find out what it means to fully turn your mind and your body over to someone else, helping them control you and have power over you. By learning more about slave training protocols, you can find out what is right for a slave to do in different situations. What you need to know about slave training protocols is that these will change when you learn more from your Dominant. These techniques often include: * Basic positions – Many Dominants will want their slaves to hold certain positions before, during, and after training sessions. This might include the Ready position or other positions that show the submissive’s true role in the relationship or in the shared experience. * Names to use – You may be required to call your Dominant certain names, or refer to yourself by other names when in their presence. * How to behave during training – The slave who is graceful and willing during training is a slave that shows their appreciation for their Dominant. The more you can learn about this new way of acting, the more training will help you grow in the submissive role. This list of slave training protocol techniques is often much longer, especially when you’ve been with a Dominant for an extended period of time. The more you learn about being submissive, the more you can take on, and the more you will be challenged to do and to learn in the process. No matter where you are in your learning process as a submissive, you need to remember that it’s up to you to know how to behave in training – and whether you prove you are trainable.

Flogging A Good Submissive

The anticipation of a good flogging

I love the look of this submissive as she waits in anticipation to receive the flogging she so desperately has asked for.  Its beautiful how she tries to peak out of the corner of her eye, hoping that she might see when the falls will land. She bites her lower lip to hopefully ease the pain of the inevitable impact and grips the chair with all her pent up frustration, fear and excitement. This will be a moment to remember.

The Kneeling Submissive

If you’re already in the submissive role, or you yearn to be, you want to find out how to be a good submissive. You want to know what it means and how you can take on the role of a sub. Even though it can seem as simple as just saying ‘yes’ to whatever a Mistress or Master might ask you to do, the process of learning how to be a sub is more complicated.

You will begin the journey of learning how to be a good submissive by getting a Dominant that is willing to train you. Since you cannot train yourself, you will need to work with someone who is going to meet your needs and allow you to make a few mistakes now and again. Find someone who has already training other submissives in how to be a sub, since this will nearly guarantee that you are getting solid training.

At the same time, you can also begin to change your mindset when you are in the submissive role. Take out a journal and entitle it, “How Can I Serve a Dominant?” Each day, write one page that answers the main question that is on this journal. A s you do, you will find that you are learning how to be a sub, as well as how to stay in the right head space to serve.

Over time, you will find that different Dominants want different things from their submissives, so the process of learning how to be a good submissive actually continues long after you’ve been trained.

Take notes after your training sessions when you’re finding out how to be a sub, since this can help you spot ways that you can improve, even if your Dominant hasn’t given you any corrections.